Systemic Family Constellations for Healing, Growth and Prosperity

 This does not mean that either we or our family members are “wrong”, or “bad”, for not having been able to process these painful experiences in a healthier way. It is a natural reaction of the psyche to want to push away things that cause us pain, and to deny they have any affect on us in the present.

It is also my firm belief that humanity is becoming more and more adept at processing trauma, at looking at its damaging effects through time, and at developing tools and approaches to help us integrate it in healthier, more life-affirming ways. 

Freud first formulated his theories on the unconscious at the end of the 19th century, and since that time, there has been exponential growth in our ability to understand how human beings function on not only a physical level, but on the psychological and spiritual ones as well. 

Family Constellations is a method developed by a German therapist, Bert Hellinger, and it is, in my view, an exceptional tool that helps us first be able to See where past trauma – our own, or that experienced by others in our family, including those who went before us – may be affecting us, and how we can begin to resolve it.

As we gain the ability to see these otherwise hidden patterns, we can also see what we can do to make new internal and external choices.

As we do so, we free ourselves from these patterns that we formerly did not even know were affecting us, and we also create a shift in the energy of the entire family “metamorphic field” (Rupert Sheldrake). 

We slowly gain new strength and freedom to move in directions that are more aligned with our Authentic Selves.

This benefits not only those who are on the healing journey, but the entire family system.

This does not mean that the one who is doing the “work” needs to carry the burden of the entire family.

Often, it is those who are most sensitive in family who suffer the most deeply, and who take on the role of the “black sheep”. 

At some point they realize they must undertake a healing journey, but they can often feel responsible for healing the whole family, and even for saving those who have hurt them.

In reality, while this excessive responsibility is a natural way that a child attempts to create a bond with their family, so they can feel safe and that they belong, it is a form of entanglement that only creates further imbalance. 

Family Constellations can help us see not only where personal or intergenerational trauma may be affecting us, but also where we are shouldering too much responsibility for others (aka codependency) in an attempt to create a sense of connectedness with our family system.

Bringing in greater balance for ourselves allows us to create a deeper harmony with taking care of ourselves, and allowing the others in the system to assume responsibility for their own evolution, healing and growth.  

With time, this furthers balance and a greater sense of peace and harmony within the family system, and benefits not only the person on the healing journey and their family, but produces positive energies and healthier role models that contribute to the Greater Good in all kinds of fascinating ways.

I look forward to seeing you soon at the group workshops, in person or online, or in an individual session. I have found that this work done individually or in groups, in person or virtually, is truly a powerful tool that can deeply benefit anyone, no matter where you are on your journey. It has brought me personally incredible levels of healing and integration that I have been surprised and profoundly grateful to experience, and I have seen my clients benefit as well.

I feel truly honored and blessed to be able to share it, and I look forward to seeing on this incredible journey!

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